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What is love?  

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What is love?

I ask myself always. The more contents I get from it, the more I feel doubted about it.

People may say, “Love is blind.” Love IS blind because whenever you love someone, you just notice his merits and values and magnify them in a ridiculous way. People also suggest, “Love is passion.” Love IS passion because you want to be with the one you love every second and want to be near him as close as possible, feeling him, touching him, breathing with him, owning him, body and soul.

The problem appears when you find you have so many candidates to be tested this way but you cannot decide which one is the right. You will find all of the mottos are fake and of no use. You have to face your own problem and decide on your own which one to choose.And whichever you choose, you lose all the other chances and regrets accompany you ever after.

It is not hesitation, not foolishness but love itself that leads to your feared future repentance. You fail to grasp the essence of love which admits your possessing someone and reject your owning the other and which tortures you every moment of its eternity and vanishment.

Nobody can turn back to his starting point. When you march forth, you lose something someone backward. When you stop to hesitate, that something, someone has marched somewhere else you may never reach to.You may have the best luck to have chosen the right one at the right time. But after the passion, after the blindness, when your rational self comes to life to examine the correctness of your choice, problems come out without any premonition.

The right attitude towards love is that to choose at the right time and to cultivate after that. There are thistles and weeds in the field of love. Both of us have to plow, to cut off the weeds and to soften the soil, in a word, to refresh our love.

It is not easy to practice choosing since it comes often that your choice contradicts with the other’s. The wise choice is to choose what you desire and to agree what the other desire. If you are to take measures to choose the one you desire, try to make them effective and perseverant, or you’ll be the one to be chosen, effectively and perseverantly. Do not complain for any result since it always goes that: no pains, no gains.

It comes easier but more complicated to cultivate your love. It is easy because you have to look forward after the first step. But it maybe extremely complicated since there are so many uncertainties and especially so many complains or unwillingness on the road for the two. How to balance? My suggestion is to stick to it. We should stick to what we have taken so many pains on or to what we have taken none. This is goddamned fair!(Well, I didn't mean to be rude. )

So keep trying it.

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